10 Tips for Querying an Agent
August 26, 2008
by Chuck Sambuchino
Before
you dive in, check out these essential tips on submitting your work to an agent.
1. If you write across
categories (let’s say you write both picture books and adult fantasy), look for an agent who handles everything you write. She might just be your perfect fit.
2. Mass mailing (or e-mailing)
agents without considering each one’s specialties is a waste of time and postage. Not every agent listed here will be a good fit for you. In fact, the fewer true matches you find, the more you’ve done
your research. Agents love when you query them individually and provide a reason, such as, “Because you represented
such-and-such book, I think you’d be a great agent for my work.”
3. Make sure your work is edited,
revised and polished. Rewriting is a crucial step to bettering your work, so be sure to have trusted peers give you an honest
critique, or consider seeking a professional freelance editor to evaluate it. And never query an agent for a novel until the work is complete.
4. Single-space your query letter, and keep it to one page. Double-space your manuscript and synopsis.
5. If you lack a good opening for your query letter, just give the facts. A simple yet effective opening line would be, “I am seeking literary representation
for my 75,000-word completed thriller, titled Dead Cat Bounce.” In one sentence, you can tell the agent the length,
genre, whether it’s complete and the title. After that, follow with the pitch and a little biographical information.
6. Follow submission directions (found at writersdigest.com) to a T. If an agent requests “no attachments,”
your query will likely be deleted should it arrive with an attachment. If they say “query first,” do just that.
If they reply to your query and ask for an exclusive read of your manuscript for four weeks, make sure you give them that exclusive look.
7. If you have an automatic
spam filter, turn it off. If you’re lucky enough to garner a reply from an agent interested in your work, the last thing
they want to deal with is a spam filter requiring them to prove
their existence.
8. Remember that publishing
is a business and there’s much to learn. If you’ve finished a novel, make sure you know how to construct a good synopsis. If you’re pitching nonfiction, you’ll likely
be asked to submit a full proposal detailing the book and how you intend to sell it. If you don’t know everything that goes into a book proposal, now’s the time to learn.
9. Realize that these listings are an excellent start, but there’s still work to be done. Research the agent’s
website to confirm that he is indeed still seeking “electronic queries for romance novels,” etc. Also, remember the frustratingly sad reality that the publishing industry is constantly in flux.
Agents
quit; they switch agencies; they suddenly stop representing fiction and move completely to nonfiction. The best
way to deal with this is to cast a wide net.
10. Be persistent. Every famous author has a story about how many
agents rejected their work before they made a connection. Work hard, work smart and don’t give up. S is for Skillfulness
Be Good at What You Do
...but don't go beating yourself up about it.
The relationship between your internal world and the external manifestation of it is a complex one.
You've heard the phrase, you get what you focus on?
Well,
this is true but it also has a down side. If you have a habit of berating yourself over your failings and beat yourself up
over your lack of success, guess what you're more likely to create in your life?
Uh-huh, more failure and lack.
I never thought this was
true until success started to happen to us and I began to look back over my life with a more dispassionate eye. And I realized
that all too often when things weren't going well, I got depressed and beat myself up. For all the right reasons of course
- I was trying to do something about it, examining my tactics, whipping myself back into shape... but to no real avail.
Have the Courage to Let Go
Success began to happen when I let go. When I realized nothing really mattered that much - and when I had faith that
things were going to turn around, they began to.
I guess because I
was focussing more on the positive, which sent different messages to my subconscious, which enabled me to make more effective
decisions about how to spend my time.
Nowadays I have Robyn to remind
me not to dwell on the negative. It's a hard habit to break but well worth the effort.
Time hating yourself, your lack of talent and your failure to achieve the things you want is wasted
time. No-one's ever going to know about, nor benefit from this state of mind. You owe it to yourself to consciously and
deliberately turn your mind to the positive.
Okay, when you're
stuck in a low gear it's sometimes hard to change but it's trying that counts. It's cumulative. The more times
you force that change in your thinking, the easier it becomes - until it becomes automatic
Pride Shows
Feeling good
about yourself and what you do has a terrific impact on your writing. I've seen thousands of manuscripts in my time and
I can tell you one thing. A MS that is alive with thought - even if there are technical errors - is far more compelling than
a dry, perfect MS from a dull writer.
It's about engagement. If
you are fully engaged in your writing, a state that occurs naturally when you're excited and happy, your mind can grasp
the whole concept, the wider perspective and that somehow transfers itself to the page.
When you're low and struggling over every word, your vision becomes narrow, critical and often, self defeating.
And that too shows on the page.
You can be good at what you do if
you let go of the critic. Believe in what you do and believe that you are giving your best and your writing will begin to
soar.
Practice
Apparent skilfullness in writing is brought about by practice. You have to get used to seeing and
hearing with words. It's a knack you can train your brain to do. After a while, you no longer receive impressions about
the world and people in a nebulous way - your brain starts to order the impressions into words and sentences that you can
pluck from your mind and put straight onto paper.
Studying writing
is good, up to a point. But I don't mean sitting down to analyze words, writing style and writing conventions. I mean
merely being open to how words are used all around us to convey meaning.
Reading
everything, writing, keeping a diary, it all helps. Even watching TV and movies is good - as long as you're thinking about
words and how they're being used to convey fiction or facts - and how you might use them yourself.
Ideally you should practice writing every day. Get used to ordering your thoughts through words on
paper.
Deliberately put off thinking about things until your writing
time. Thinking achieves little when it comes to writing.
Thinking
about writing or being a writer is not actual writing - to state an obvious but often ignored fact with would-be writers.
Aim to be good at what you do, yes, but also believe that what you do is good -
and your writing, and your writing based life, will begin to prosper.
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To
Your Writing Success!
Rob Parnell
Here are some tips for creating the story goal:
1.
The goal your hero/heroine set to solve the crisis must be the most logical goal she would set under the circumstances.
2. This goal must cause your hero/heroine to try to gain either possession of something, for example a person,
a thing or information, or relief from something, for example pain, suffering, fear, oppression, loneliness, domination or
poverty.
3. It must be clear that if your hero/heroine fails to achieve this
goal, she will suffer terrible consequences. Life without the crisis solved would be unthinkable.
4. Your hero/heroine must have a worthy motivation for pursuing this goal. It is not enough that you hero
is pursuing this goal to solve the crisis. Some worthy motivations are duty, love, honor, justice, dignity, integrity, patriotism,
redemption, and self-respect.
5. The goal must pit your hero/heroine against
great odds. It should see impossible for her to achieve her goal.
Leave ’em hanging
Don’t
you hate it when you’re really "into" a good TV show and it cuts off at the most crucial part of the scene?
The announcer says "stay tuned for next weeks show," and you want to fling a shoe at him. Come on, you haven’t
felt that way? Well, I have and that means the writer did his job to perfection.
Leaving
me hanging, keeping me in suspense, keeps me tuning in week after week, cause I just gotta know what happens next.
As you write, think of each scene of your story as a weekly tv show. You want to excite your readers. You
want to keep them turning those pages, day after day, hour after hour.
A few
key words to remember are: conflict- suspense- drama - surprise - resolution
Think
domino effect.
Leaving off in the middle of a scene, without any kind of resolution,
creates drama: drama creates suspense: suspense creates intrigue and intrigue curiosity. Nab the curiosity and you’ll
nab your reader’s attention.
Another important thing to remember: As often
as you can, open a scene, or end, with a "hook."
In my historical time
travel, Roy, a reporter, is driving up a steep mountain road. His thoughts are on my heroine and her whereabouts. I open the
scene with:
She was in trouble. His sixth sense had never failed him before.
It was one of those unexplainable things that was a part of him. His reporter’s instinct, he always called it.
I decrease the tension flow by having him think about a conversation he had with someone about my heroine.
Every now and then I’ll throw in a key word which will suggest tension. As he’s drumming his fingers on the steering
wheel, the radio announcer is talking about the "strange" weather they are having.
I
end the scene and the chapter with:
A blast of hot air wafted across the
side of his face. As heavy and as thick as honey, it sent prickly goose bumps up the nape of his neck. Strange, this weather
- hot and sunny one minute, stormy the next. As strange as the strong feeling tugging at his gut that something bad was about
to happen.
Hopefully the reader will want to turn to the next chapter to
find out what happens next.
Don’t be quick to resolve the conflict in the
immediate chapter. Readers have good memory’s and if your closing "hook" is strong enough, they’re not
likely to forget where you left off; in fact, they’ll be looking for "what happens next," with anticipation
and hopefully with bated breath. It isn’t until nine pages later that we’re back to Roy to find out if he’s
in danger.
Withhold information.
Withholding
information is a good way to keep readers intrigued. I love a twist of an ending, making the reader think one thing and then
bam! However hints at the concealed information must be planted throughout the story, or when the "surprise" is
revealed out of the blue, the reader will feel cheated.
In my current book, the
heroine is revenging the death of her mother. Throughout the book this is what the reader believes to be her main focus. If
you read between the lines, however, in her thoughts and in her words, there is another reason, which of course, isn’t
revealed until the end of the book.
Plant your secrets carefully so that the
reader doesn’t feel unfairly gulled and disappointed.
Surprise endings
force the reader to go back and think about your character - to think about the character’s actions and what lead them
to this point in the book, to perhaps look at them with a new light. And isn’t that what every writer strives to achieve?
Surprise endings, twists, either in a scene or at the end of your story, are powerful ways to keep those
readers coming back not only to each chapter, but hopefully to each and everyone one of your books.
Press Kits:
A press
kit ( release) is a low-cost way of reaching the media.
Send out
a press release to just about everyone you can think of. Ex: the newspaper where you went to school, your local/city paper,
the town newspaper where your book is set and to any TV/radio station.
Contents:
Two information pages, a cover, your picture and
an excerpt of your story which can be in the form of a brochure.
Page
One:
Start with a great opening hook that will pique the reader’s
attention. Sound familiar? Just like any good book, your press release should grab the reader.
If you use facts or direct quotes make sure you cite your sources.
If possible scan a thumb-print picture of your cover onto this page. Not only does it look great,
but it gives a visual.
Make sure your name, your publisher's
name and address is on this page, as well as your ISBN number.
If
the book is available on line, site those addresses. Is your book a paperback, print on demand, e-book, hardcover?
Next on the same page comes a short blurb of your story, (the back blurb from your book works).
Then close with any review quotes.
Page
Two:
Your book title: IN CAPS
Name
Address
Phone number
Email address
High School
College
And any personal information that might be interesting and draws attention.
Next, comes your bio- your "life at a glance." Here you can list any other books you have
out, and where to purchase them.
Keep things short and to the
point. The media is pressed for time and they look for quick eye catching information.
Add a black and white picture of yourself. (5x7 or 8x10)
If you have a copy of your cover- add it.
Put it all in
a large envelop and make sure IT'S NOT TOO BULKY!
And most
important:
Make sure your press kit is professional and neat.
Love Scenes are......
A tango - a give and take - a push and pull that's what
a love scene is, both emotionally and physically.
A love scene in your story can move the plot, add interest, add
tension and complications.
Just like in real life, your characters take the chance of rejection and embarrassment
and so it's likely there would be some kind of tension that comes along with attraction.
Think: two fighters in a boxing ring, both dancing around one another, trying to figure out just what would happen if: she
leaned in closer, if he brushed a piece of lint from her shoulder, if they kiss, if she told him she loved him.
Most
of us, when we first meet someone we are attracted to, won't jump right in and show how we feel. We'd make a move
and see where it leads. Hopefully he'll take that hint and move with it - or not; thus the push and pull of your story.
It's important to keep your characters true to themselves. If your heroine is the type to jump right in with everything
she does, consequences be damned, then she just might take that risk and tell him upfront how she feels. If a man is the:
"my life is private and no one's allowed in" type, even during a love scene he wouldn't be all "talkie"
about his feelings. Where she might be a bit nervous and talk even more, he'd clam up even tighter.
That doesn't
mean he's not thinking how beautiful she if, how soft, how wonderful. And she may be thinking, am I nuts? Yes, he's
a hunk, but what am I doing? He's my boss! This, while they make passionate love. Thinking conflicting thoughts while
making love creates tension, that dance around the ring that makes the reader want to know what happens next. Will that touch
lead to love? Will they make love again? Will they stay together? Keep your reader guessing and you'll add suspense and
anticipation to your story.
Remember to use your five senses. When you're in love, the world looks brighter,
the air fresher, the sunsets are more vibrant and birds sing a sweeter song.
Here's
a recipe for turning a relationship into something a little more permanent:
Ingredients:
2 cups attraction
2 cups friendship
1 quart of communication
1 cup of respect mixed
with a pinch of courtesy
1 pint of trust
½ cup of support
a dash of compromise
1 quart of forgiveness
a whole handful of affection combined vigorously with as much sex as you can get
Preparation:
Combine
all ingredients slowly. Simmer then heat till steamy.
Yield:
Many good years together.
Investigating the Crime
Scene
OK. You've started your thriller. Murdered off a character.
The police are on their way. Now what?
Readers demand accuracy.
Feed them the wrong information and they'll let you know you've made a mistake. So, to the best of your ability, you'd
better know who does what, and what happens, at the crime scene if you are going to write about one.
Sherlock Holmes said: "Whenever you have excluded the impossible, whatever remains, however
improbable, must be the truth." In other words the truth is present at every crime scene. And if it's your character's
job to find it, make sure he's doing his job correctly.
Keep
in mind that precincts vary in their allotment of duties. Not all houses have a large enough staff to divvy procedures out.
In a small town, the local sheriff may do it all; whereas in a larger precinct, the Patrol division, Identification section,
Scene of the Crimes officer, and detective will likely all be called in to investigate.
The following is the procedure used at a crime scene, in a homicide case, by a large precinct.
The primary responsibility, of those people involved, is the isolation and protection of the crime
scene. This is very important. Any discrepancy, any contamination of evidence jeopardizes the case.
If this is an outdoor crime scene, conduct all examinations as soon as possible due to weather and
light changes.
The patrol division usually gets the initial call
and goes to the scene to determine the situation.
Upon arrival
the first officer at the scene should preserve its integrity until the patrol division supervisor can arrive.
Responsibilities of first officer.
1.
Record exact time of your arrival and or notify Communications that you are on the scene.
2. Enter immediate scene using one path of entry.
3.
Check victim for signs of life.
4. Secure and define the scene
by assessing the entire crime scene noting all exits and paths of entry.
5.
Isolate a perimeter with a type of barrier.
6. Isolate witnesses
and remove all persons from the immediate area.
7. Ascertain
whether or not any evidence is present and control collection.
8.
Request additional unites as needed.
Responsibilities of patrol
supervisor:
1. Take an initial survey of the area, developing
a mental image to ensure the scene is preserved.
2.Record names,
addresses, dates of birth and telephone numbers etc of all persons present.
3.
Set up a command post if police are to be at the scene for a long period of time.
4. Start a crime scene log to enter everyone who enters the crime scene.
5.Interview witnesses.
6. Notify the
homicide division and record time of notification and who was notified.
Important:
Don't touch anything; unless there's
an injured person. Once backup arrives, if the victim is removed from the scene, an officer should accompany the victim, in
the ambulance, to the hospital.
Upon arrival, the detective takes
over. It is now the officer's job to assist the detective.
The
detective will:
1. Record exact time of his or her arrival.
1. Interview witnesses.
2. Canvass the
area. Note the surroundings, who's loitering around. Everything should be considered as evidence.
3. Record everything from the time, to the weather, the lighting, to the amount of people on the
scene, which includes ambulance personnel, family members, witnesses and police personal.
4. Interview first officer and other police personal at the scene to determine sequence of events.
5. Arrange transport for witnesses to be sent to headquarters and takes written statements. It will
be the detective's job to follow-up on the investigation and write follow up reports, as well as make any subsequent arrests.
6. Record location, and complete description of the body, including a detailed account of their clothing.
Note condition of body.
7. If identity of victim is known, get
a background check.
8. Ascertain whether or not there are any
suspects in custody.
A few details the detective looks for:
foot/finger/palm prints
clothing fibers
hair strands
blood
paint chips if a vehicle is involved.
tire
tracks
All "trace evidence" is ascertained by the use
of tweezers or other appropriate instruments.
(The name of the
officer who found the evidence and the name of officer who receives the evidence at the evidence locker is noted.)
**Remember- all personal must wear gloves.
Photographs
of the area are shot from the four corners of the scene, long distance, close up, etc., as well as photos of the body. This
is done before the ME examines the body.
Now portions of the
body which were not visual prior to photos can be photographed.
This
is done by the identification officer of the crime scene division, or the detective. Some departments hire civilian employees
to be a technical and they will take the pictures.
Physical evidence
is taken and transported to the laboratory for further assessment. An initial crime-scene sketch at location and another sketch
at headquarters is performed. Fingerprints are taken which will be compared to the prints of known suspects.
The ME (Medical Doctor), EMT (Emergency Medical Technician), or Coroner examines the victim and pronounces
dead at the scene. He determines cause and time of death. Time of death is usually determined by taking the internal temperature
of the body.
The victim's location/position of body is marked.
Body is then wrapped in a clean white sheet and placed in a body bag. Bag the hands of the victim
with paper bags to preserve any trace evidence under fingernails.
It
is critical that all evidence is collected, i.e., photos, initial examination, etc., before the body is released.
Oh, and a little tidbit I picked up: if your body's been dead for some time, remember to have
your character wash his or her hair. The smell gets into the hair shafts and stays there!
Check my links page for available research sites:
The forensic information, The police
magazine, The FBI, are just a few site from the extensive list.
Reference
books for the above article:
The Howdunit Series /Writer's
Digest
Cause of Death: Keith Wilson
Amateur Detectives: E. Chase & A. Wingate
Police
Procedural: Russell Bintliff
Murder One: M. Corvasce & J.
Paglino
Scene of the Crime: Anne Wingate
Just the Fact's Ma'am: Greg Fallis
Hidden
Evidence: David Owen
Practical Homicide Investigation: Vernon
Geberth
Email
from a Nassau County Detective concurring on the above procedures.
So
you've sold your book. Now what?
In today's ever-changing marketplace fewer publishing houses are willing
to devote money and manpower to promote new authors, so if you want your book to make it to the New York Times best sellers
list, it's up to you.
You have to be your own promotions’ department, for unfortunately with the millions
of books crowding the bookstore shelves, no one will look twice at your book if they’ve never heard your name.
Here are a few suggestions on getting recognized and boosting sales.
Do book signings.
Getting up in front
of people and talking??? Most of us shiver at the thought!
Well, take a deep breath, go to a hypnotist - do whatever
it takes to get yourself out there. A book signing is a great way to sell your book and get your name circulating.
Have bookmarks available to give customers and place them into the books.
If possible, the bookmark should have a picture
of your book cover on it or at the very least your name, the title of your book, the ISBN # and any other books you've
written. It should also have your website address.
The Internet is the future. The best way to get your information
out to those endless multitudes of people is to have your own website. The pages should contain an excerpt of your book, your
bio with your picture, a simple click link to purchase your book and any other pertinent information, as well as a guest book
for those who'd like to drop you a line. Make the site easy to navigate, quick to open and your address easy to find by
search engines and keywords.
Join on-line discussion groups and
have a signature line after your name that clicks to your webpage. Link your web address to other writer’s pages and
writing organizations.
Get your book reviewed by online reviews
and post those reviews on your website.
Have pens, magnets, and any interesting 'give aways' you can think
of, to hand out to those people you meet. Leave them on tables in restaurants, at the gym, at your doctor’s office,
everywhere and anywhere. I once had a person stop me at a light to ask what my license plate said. Guess what? She drove away
with one of my pens!
Create a newsletter to send to your fans and friends.
(This works better after you've
sold more than one book, or at least have a second book coming out to promote).
Make up a colorful brochure and
send it out to everyone you know. Try to find out who's having a convention and see if you can mail them your brochures.
People are always looking for free handouts. Also get a list of booksellers and see if you can drop your brochures in the
mail to them. Go to your local book store and leave a few with them.
Go
to as many reader and writer conventions as you can afford. There is usually a book sale the last day, so make sure when you
sign up, you have plenty of books to sell. If you want to increase traffic to your table see if you can have a raffle of some
kind.
Make up a press kit and send it to the local papers
along with a brochure.
Take out ads in romance and writing
magazines. This can be a little costly, but again, it’s a great way to get your name and book title out to the public.
Last, but not least, call your local libraries and see if they'd be interested in having
you present a program to their readers. You can talk, and I can hear you all cringing again, on many different topics of writing
or the genre pertaining to your book. You may not be able to sell your book that day, but you'll meet people who'd
love to have those handouts you've created.
And you thought when you completed your book your work was finished...this
is where the fun begins!
Characters who are they and from where do they
come?
Simple, they are born from your imagination,
or sometimes, from traits of those around you. And like any new born, they grow as the story grows.
So how do they start on their journey of growth? Well, it can start with a name or an image.
A name like Bobby Joe, conjures up images of the South and a small town, where as JT, sounds more cosmopolitan. Celine Beaumont,
sounds French, and Beth Levinsky, Jewish. A name like Victoria sounds old world, maybe even feminine, where as Sam, is a bit
tougher, especially since she hates the name Samantha. Pick a name that portrays the right image of who that character is.
Once that’s determined, I make up a character chart. It has all the basics: age, eye,
hair color, height, weight, body structure and facial lines. I’ll think about their parents, their nationality, their
past.
If a person was traumatized as a child that will either
in part or wholly determine how that person will think and react throughout your story.
In my time travel, A
FIND THROUGH TIME, my heroine, Gabrielle, as a child disobediently went into a cave and her younger brother followed her.
He fell and died and as a result Gabrielle believes her mother became despondent and her father left because of this accident.
She blames herself and that guilt lives within her throughout the book; of course until that moment when hero makes her come
to terms with the fact that it wasn’t her fault.
Subsequently she is left at the alter, so between her father leaving and her finance leaving, her
she is dealing with abandonment issues. Her view on men would be completely different from someone who came from a two parent
home and who had a wonderful love life.
So a character’s
past is very important to who they are and how they view the world around them.
Back
to the character chart. I’ll ask them about their fears, dreams, their philosophy on life. How much education did they
get? What’s their stand on politics? Do they like their job; is money important? And of course in a romance: What is
their love life like? You may never use all the information but this process, for me, helps me to get to know who my characters
are and from this they grow.
In my second historical, THE ENCHANTRESS,
my heroine is clairvoyant. As a result, she is a loner, thinking those around her will think she is odd. But that wasn’t
enough- so I made her appearance a bit odd, her complexion being extremely white and her hair more silver than blond, she
has yellowish green catlike eyes and she plays an instrument which at that period in time, was thought to wake the dead, cause
deafness, and illness. As a result, she is afraid to let anyone close and in on her secret.
Of course I had her have a vision of a fire, where the hero’s son is in the room and she is
forced to overcome her fears and save the boy.
So again think
hard on who your character is and where they come from, for these things compounded together will cause them to think, react
and will determine not only how they see themselves, but those around them as well.
Lets go over some character traits.
The male persona:
There’s the bad boy with the predatory
expression, who’s dangerous to know.
The best friend, who
is sweet and safe.
The charmer, suave, gregarious, life of the
party, you can’t help but be attracted to him.
The leader,
assertive, confident, who has no time in his life for anything but work and always takes control.
The analytical professor, introspective, reserved, who know every answer.
Mister adventure, independent, excitement is in his blood; he’s not the marrying kind.
And The warrior, honorable; courageous, he has to save the damsel in distress.
Then there’s the lost soul, withdrawn, inhibited, a sensitive being who you can’t
help but want to hug.
A few Female types:
The boss, dogmatic, assertive, all work, no play.
The
free spirit, optimist, who’d rather dance and party all night.
The
librarian, the loner, insecure, deep-thinking.
The nurturer,
a serene being, capable, motherly.
The tom boy, thick-skinned,
loyal to the end.
The waif, or damsel in distress, naive, innocent.
The crusader, unflinching, gritty, who goes out to fight the issues, true to her commitments.
And the survivor, a re-bounder who always gets her way.
OK
Now that we’ve decided who our character is, how do
we make them believable?
They become believable when the reader
recognizes some familiar aspect or identifies with that character. A few examples: twirling their hair when nervous, biting
their nails when distressed; a fear of heights, or spiders. Those of us with a few extra pounds around our middle can relate
to a character who is self conscience of her flabby stomach, and hates undressing in a locker room. We can share and sympathize
with a traumatic high school experience like being the last one left who wasn’t picked to be on the team, or not being
asked to the Senior Prom. Just the same, we can share and perhaps relate to their good experiences like the birth of a child,
a wedding, or an occasion you shared with your family and friends. So again, think of traits that a person can relate to.
Here’s a few vices:
oversleeps
overworks
drinks too much
smokes too much
interrupts people
talking
cracks jokes at the expense of other people
watches too much TV
laughs too
loud when nervous
cracks knuckles
grinds teeth
doesn’t’
hand up clothes
drives a little too fast
drinks out of the container
cracks
gum between teeth
thanks people too much
apologizes for everything.
It
is important to remember that a believable character will have flaws; not only will the reader not relate to them if they
are perfect, put they will come across as a "cardboard character".
Remember:
NO ONE IS PERFECT, at least I haven’t come across anyone who is.
What lies beneath
Did you know that Native American women wore chastity belts and the word 'girdle,' was associated
with the men of the twelfth century?
Welcome to the world of
undergarments or lack of, where fashion ran the gauntlet from bare bottoms to bizarre contraptions made of bone, iron and
wood.
During the Victorian times, what you wore beneath your
garb would be a sign of class distinction. Revealing portions of your underclothing was an erotic gesture, symbolizing the
act of undressing. Frequently, tops of a woman's undergarments would be exposed, or a dress was designed to look like
a piece of underwear as to suggest the wearer was incompletely dressed.
"Tight-lacing,"
according to one woman, "produced a delicious sensation, half pleasure, half pain."
In the Elizabethan era, undergarments protected fine garments from filthy skin and were often heavily
dosed with perfume. And did you know that in 1589, Queen Elizabeth received her first pair of silk stockings?
Medieval men wore hose which when too baggy, or too tight, chafed the top of their thighs and thus
the complaint known as ‘Pikeman's Crotch’...
In
1629 a woman who had committed adultery had to be clad in a ‘Sheet of Repentance,’ when confessing her sins in
church.
When tight breeches were regarded captivating, in 1770,
men wore artificial calves strapped beneath their stockings. Women wore ‘pouter pigeon’ corsets of bone and iron,
which pinched their sides, and squeezed the very breath from their lungs. Corsets lifted not only their decollete, but their
self worth. As one woman said: "pride feels no pain."
In
the 1900's men wore dickey's around their necks. And if you thought Victoria Secret invented those bust enhancing
bras, think again. In the 1890s flexible celluloid bras were advertised. The ‘bust improvers, ’featured cup-shape
wire structures with ‘ slitted pockets’ where a pad could be inserted.
Hearts, arrows, and provocative, erotic designs were nothing new to Victorian prudery of the 1880s.
Garments like, silk and linen were less liable to harbor lice then wool. Now, that’s a comforting
thought!
The Act of 1678 provided that no corpse of any person,
(except those who died of the plague) could be buried in any shirt, shift, sheet, shroud, or anything made with flax, hemp,
silk, hair, gold, silver.
Horsehair was used to make pads, known
as ‘mattress,’ for bustles and in the 1800s, when daring young women indulged in outdoor activities such as walking
holidays, flannel or wool worn next to the skin was a must to absorb perspiration.
The word petticoat, an underskirt, comes from the Old French "petite cote" meaning little coat.
Bloomers, those baggy pants woman wore beneath their shirts and latter wore alone, gained respectability
in 1849-50 and were named after the feminist Amelia Bloomer.
Oh
and getting back to Naive Americans...
That protective
rope was tied around their waists, passed down between their legs, and wrapped around each thigh. Ugh talk about rope burns!
And think again Victoria Secret -
The
word 'G-string' is nothing new to those hunky warriors. Underneath those breechclouts a Native American male would
wear a g-string made of cloth.
Here's a few links to
undergarments:
http://www.costumes.org/pages/corsetlinks.htm#History
http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Village/4711/corslink.htm
http://www.geocities.com/FashionAvenue/Mall/5138/corset.html
http://www.costumes.org/pages/corsetlinks.htm
http://www.marquise.de/themes/korsett/korsett.shtml
Books:
The History
of Underclothes by C. Willett and Phillis Cunnington
I Wonder
What's Under There? : A Brief History of Underwear (Lift-The-Flap Book (Harcourt Brace & Co.).)
by Deborah Nourse Lattimore, David A. Carter
FIVE TIPS TO GET PUBLISHED – ASAP! By Beth Ann Erickson
There are hundreds
of variables that can determine how quickly you’ll get published. The economy and financial condition of a publication
can determine how many freelance articles they purchase. Maybe you can hit an editor on a bad day and he/she hates everything
he/she reads, even your manuscript. As you can see, many of these variables are out of your control. That’s
the bad news. But here’s the good news. There are variables you control, and how you treat these variables will have
a direct influence on how often you get published.
Here
are five basic tips you can use on a daily basis that will enhance your chances of hitting pay dirt. Here they are:
Learn everything you can about your craft. Attend classes. Read
writing books. Subscribe to e-mags that will help your career. Just like a carpenter who must purchase tools so he can practice
his craft, you must invest in the tools that will make you a better writer than your competition.
Read everything you can get your hands on. Read fiction, nonfiction, direct mail,
read everything you can find. When you become a voracious reader, you become a better writer. There are no short cuts. So
turn off the television. Crack open a book. And have a ball.
Target the publications you want to write for – then become familiar with them. Subscribe to the magazines you
want to write for. Purchase books in your genre. Get on GOOD direct mail mailing lists. If you’re short on cash, visit
your library on a regular basis and read books and magazines there. When you’re paging through your target magazines
or books from a publisher you’re planning on contacting, try to visualize their ideal reader. Then as you write, write
directly to that reader. An editor who knows you’ve taken the time to research their company will be FAR more willing
to give your manuscript a read-through.
Read EVERYTHING
you send out aloud. You’ll catch typos, grammos, and generally dumb sentences when you read EVERYTHING you write
aloud. I read The Almach aloud at least three times. Jumpstart went through the same process. Reading your manuscripts aloud
will not guarantee that they’ll be perfect, but you’ll discover that your writing is much easier to read after
this exercise. It takes time but it’s worth it. Just purchase some throat lozenges (I use Jolly Ranchers) and get going.
Never give up, never give up, never give up. Write on a daily basis.
It’s easy to get discouraged when a rejection letter flows in. But having a number of queries floating around in cyberspace
keeps that little flame of hope burning bright. I’m thoroughly convinced that the only way we can fail as writers is
if we give up. As long as you don’t give up, you’ll definitely be published.
Eventually. If these tips sound like a lot of work, they are. But the work you put into honing your
writing and researching your target publications will be reflected in the number of acceptance letters you receive. These
simple tips will make your writing absolutely sparkle when the editor reads your words. You’ll outshine your competition.
And when you outshine your competition, you’ve just enhanced your chances of getting published.
Beth Ann Erickson is the publisher of Writing Etc., the free e-mag for writers.
Character Profile:
Name:_____________________________________________
(remember a name can portray a character’s trait before you let
the reader know them. ex. Victoria sounds old world, where as JT sounds more cosmopolitan. If a person named Samantha insists
on being call Sam, because she hates the name, this tells you a little something about her personality.)
Date of Birth____________________
Age:
____________________
Ht:
____________________
Wt:
____________________
Build:
_______________________________________________________
Facial
Characteristics:_____________________________________________________
Eye
color: ______________________________________________________
Hair color: _____________________________________________________
any scars, blemishes, physical disabilities: _________________________________
How does he/she dress:______________________________________________
Three words that describe character’s looks:_______________________________
Nationality: _______________________________________________________
Occupation:_______________________________________________________
Education:____________________________________________________________________________
From what part of the country do or did you live?______________________________________________
Family background:
mother (and her impact on character)________________________________________________________
father (same) _________________________________________________________________________
siblings (same) ________________________________________________________________________
any thing significant happen in childhood, like: abuse, sibling rivalry, etc._______________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
type of home life: poverty, privileged ________________________________________________________
any kind of nickname ____________________________________________________________________
what were his/her childhood dreams_________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
friendships____________________________________________________________________________
Current:
strengths _____________________________________________________________________________
weakness______________________________________________________________________________
fears_________________________________________________________________________________
goals, ambition: what does he/she want to accomplish in life________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
dreams_______________________________________________________________________________
hobbies_______________________________________________________________________________
habits_______________________________________________________________________________
life philosophies________________________________________________________________________
prejudices_____________________________________________________________________________
superstitions____________________________________________________________________________
unique speech patterns___________________________________________________________________
mannerisms or gestures that indicate personality traits, (twirl hair when nervous,
stamp feet when angry etc)___
_____________________________________________________________________________________
sloppy?_______________________________________________________________________________
neat?________________________________________________________________________________
Laid back - type A personality or somewhere in between?________________________________________
obstacles you need to overcome.___________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________
do you act differently when with family than with friend___________________________________________
do you ask for advise? Do you take it?_______________________________________________________
Are you trusting of others?________________________________________________________________
Do you judge by first impressions?__________________________________________________________
How do you decide if you can trust a person?__________________________________________________
What do your friends think of you?__________________________________________________________
Are you keeping any secrets?______________________________________________________________
Is there anything keeping you from your goals in life?_____________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________
Is there any situation that your self-esteem is at risk?_____________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________________
Athletic or hate exercising.________________________________________________________________
Favorite:
movie___________________________
food____________________________
color____________________________
music____________________________
book____________________________
hero_____________________________
heroine___________________________
car______________________________
animal____________________________
place to escape to ______________________________________________________________________
place to spend a vacation _________________________________________________________________
Love
Do you fall in love easily? Or take your time?__________________________________________________
What scares you about your lover or potential lover?____________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
What kind of relationships have you had in the past?_____________________________________________
How did they end?______________________________________________________________________
What kind of person attracts you?___________________________________________________________
What part of your lover’s body do you like the most?____________________________________________
What part of your body do you like the most?__________________________________________________
What embarrasses you about your body?_____________________________________________________
Are you afraid to love? Or embrace it?_______________________________________________________
Are you easy to fall in love with? Why?_______________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________
If your lover asked you to give up your dream to be with him, would you?_____________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________
Any emotional scars when it come to love? (Left at the altar, found lover in
bed with someone else, etc)______
____________________________________________________________________________________
What does your lover know about you that no one else knows?____________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________
Would you tell your lover your darkest secret, dreams, fears?______________________________________
Is being in love easy or hard for you? Why?___________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________
Do you like yourself as a person?___________________________________________________________
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On
their wedding day, most couples are starry-eyed, imagining marriage as a series of candlelight dinners and romantic weekends
away. But once the champagne bubbles are gone, there's an awful lot of life left to get through as husband and wife. Just
how do long-married couples successfully navigate the years together? We asked men and women married for more than 20 years
for their best advice. Never go to sleep mad at each other. But also, never
leave for work mad at each other. It can really ruin your day, and it's not worth it. --Roger
C., married 45 years If he helps around the house -- washes
the dishes, cooks, vacuums -- and it's not quite up to your standards, don't complain. Be happy he is making an effort
to help. --Margaret C., married 45 years Respect
and a sense of humor are key. The sense of humor needs to kick in when the respect is temporarily wavering. --Bonnie W., married 35 years Accept that you can't
change someone. You have to learn to live with whatever annoys you, and remember that you have as many faults as your spouse
does. --Russell S., married 40 years You
have to be best friends, have mutual respect, trust, and be truly comfortable, not just complacent, with each other. --Marianne S., married 40 years Respect, honor, cherish,
and nurture your partnership while supporting one another in the pursuit of personal dreams. --Lisa
M., married 20 years |
Do
you notice what word keeps repeating its self over and over again in the above article? Respect, respect, respect. In a relationship, be it a new one, or a well seasoned one, respecting one another is the
key. Respect is the foundation of caring which can lead to love.
Respect makes being with one another easier especially if you don't agree on something. Without respect for one
another can you really cherish, honor, or nurture? The
dictionary says this on respect: Esteem for, or a sense of the worth, or excellence of a person. If we embrace the excellence of the person we are with, how can that person not feel loved?
Respecting one another is saying thanks - being polite on a regular basis, and saying
your sorry. Respecting a person means being happy in their achievements, encouraging their goals and being
there for them in their failures. It's understanding where they come from and accepting them for who they are, and for
who they can become, with each new experience you face together. You
may not always agree, but respectful people don't yell and say things they'll regret later. They listen and communicate
in a positive way. As relationships season with time, people change,
as can a relationship, but keeping that respect for one another alive, will be the glue for a solid relationship for years
to come. Marianne Petit, Happily
married 30 years |
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You've Just Met: By Sara Eckel
When it comes to relationships, psychologist Dr. Judith Sills says that there are two kinds of people: askers and
non-askers. "Askers ask way too early -- on date three they'll ask 'What do you think about children and what
religion should they be raised in?'" Non-askers ask way too late, if at all, so after the wedding they'll say
'What do you mean you were married before?'" says Sills, author of the forthcoming If The Horse is Dead, Get
Off (Viking, 2004).Small queries can lead to big answers when looking for a life mate -- here's a brief guide to what
to ask, and when.
You're
at a party, on a blind date, or just hanging out with friends. So far you like what you see. He's attractive, well groomed,
and doesn't appear to have any major substance addictions. Get to know him a little better by asking:
1. What did you do today? When asked on a weeknight, this is a subtle way of finding out if your potential
beau is gainfully employed. On a weekend, this will tell you if your interests are compatible -- "Got up at 7 to run"
or "Slept until noon" will hold various levels of appeal or disgust, depending on your own point of view.
2. What do you love about your job? We've all experienced that horrible awkward
pause after you ask a man what he does and he informs you that he sells packaging materials. But what he does is far less
important than why he does it. So give him a chance to tell you why being an insurance actuary is actually fascinating work,
or that he loves nothing but the money he makes. Either way, the answer will be revealing.
3. What CDs are in your stereo right now? If you ask him what kind of music he likes, you'll probably learn
more about what kind of music he thinks sounds impressive at cocktail parties than what he sings in the shower. So put him
on the spot and let him confess that he listened to his old Flock of Seagulls album this morning. You may find that you have
the same guilty pleasures.
4. What brought you to New York/Seattle/Boise?
The reasons that people pick up and move to new places -- "I fell in love," "I wanted to pursue my dream of
being a landscape architect," "My college pal needed a roommate" -- reveal a lot about a person's spirit.
And if they've lived the same place their entire life? Well, that tells you a lot too.
5. So did you see that story about the guy who was in a coma for 19 years? By asking about a compelling news
story, you'll get a good sense of whether your interests meld. You'll also keep your first encounter from sounding
too much like a job interview.
Going the
next level
Life with your new man has been blissful. He's been
a perfect gentleman. Picks you up at the door to go to concerts, movies, romantic dinners. The physical attraction has been
strong, so much so that you're hoping he won't be quite so gentlemanly at the end of the evening. But are you ready
for serious physical intimacy? Ask him:
1. When do you think is the right
time to sleep with someone? This question should be asked in a relatively low-key environment -- when you're walking in
the park, getting an ice-cream cone, fishing. Not when he's fumbling with your bra strap. The idea here is to get his
general philosophy, without necessarily commenting on your relationship.
2. Are you seeing anyone else? It might seem unfathomable that the man you've felt so connected with all these months
could have another girlfriend, but he may have an entirely different interpretation of your relationship. So while you may
not like the answer, it's better to learn this before you ask him to spend the night.
3. Do you worry about STDs? Asking a guy if he's been tested for sexually transmitted diseases is about
as romantic as asking him to pee in a cup. This is never an easy topic, so start by asking a more philosophical question.
"The bottom line is you have to have the safe-sex talk, and you have to come to an agreement that you're both comfortable
with, whether that means wearing condoms, getting tested, or both," says Sills.
4. Are you sure you're ready for this? This will let him know that you take the relationship seriously,
that there indeed is something one needs to be "ready" for.
5.
What are my parents' first names? Okay, you don't literally ask this question. But if he's viewing this as the
next step in building a committed relationship, then he should already know some basic stuff about you. "You really want
to be at the point where the relationship is stable enough so that you don't have to ask. Is he part of your life? Has
he met your friends and family? Or is he just someone you've been on six dates with? Behavior answers this question more
than a conversation," says Sills
Shacking Up
The way you see it, you're together all the time anyway. But before you start playing
house, have a frank discussion about a few issues:
1. What's our commitment
level? It's not that you have to decide that living together equals engagement, or even pre-engagement. But you both need
to know where the other one stands. If one of you assumes that you'll be getting engaged in a year and the other thinks
you're just saving on rent, then there's sure to be trouble ahead.
2.
What are your concerns about our compatibility? Will it drive him crazy that you leave dirty dishes in the sink overnight?
Can you deal with the fact that he needs the television on 24-7? "You're sharing more time, more space, more money,
so it's natural that things will come up," says Sills. The more you discuss your idiosyncrasies beforehand, the easier
it will be.
3. What are your expectations regarding togetherness? Will he leave
you home every night watching Sex in the City while he plays pool with the guys? Or will he be angry when he discovers you
work until 9 p.m. most evenings? If one of you expects to be joined at the hip, while the other plans on maintaining a separate
life, then there'll be a lot of tension in your household if you don't sort things out now.
4. How will we pay for stuff? Are you planning on splitting each bill down the middle, or will the person who
earns more pay more? And what's your money style -- do you go crazy if bills aren't paid on the 1st of the month,
or do you wait until the last minute? "This is a romantic relationship with a powerful economic variable, so you need
to have a frank economic discussion because these issues will definitely surface," says Sills.
5. How will we divide the chores? If you're a neat freak and he tends to leave his dirty underwear on the
living-room floor, then it's probably not realistic to expect him to keep the place up to your standards. You don't
have to divide each job equally down the middle, but you do need to find a system that you both think is fair. Decide where
you're willing to compromise, and what you're willing to contribute.
Marriage
Before you start picking out china patterns
and interviewing caterers, make sure you've got this stuff squared away:
1. How do you feel about kids? Obviously, this is key. But if you both decide you want children, don't leave it at that.
You also need to find out what sacrifices he's willing to make to ensure that these children will be raised, clothed,
and fed. Will he be willing to quit his job to raise them? Will he be willing to get a job to support them?
2. Is there anything I need to know about your finances? Just because he wears expensive Italian suits and
always dines at 5-star restaurants, doesn't mean he doesn't have financial troubles. In fact, those designer clothes
and gourmet meals could well be the reason for his money woes. So before you co-mingle your finances, you need to know if
you're marrying thousands of dollars in credit-card debt, in addition to a sharp dresser and a discriminating palate.
3. Where do you want to have the ceremony? Even if he has never mentioned his religion,
don't assume that he'll be willing to recite his nuptials at your hometown church, or even City Hall. Weddings often
bring out strong feelings of religious or family loyalty, so it's important that you speak respectfully to each other
about whether you'll have a religious or civil ceremony, whose hometown you'll marry in, and who will be expected
to convert.
4. What are your expectations about seeing our families? Is
your idea of family values seeing your relatives for a couple of days at Christmastime, or having dinner with them every Sunday?
5. What are your most significant life experiences? If he once was a member of Gamblers
Anonymous, has already been married, or if his dad was an alcoholic, then you should know this before you tie the knot. "Marriage
is full disclosure. You don't need to tell him how many people you've slept with, but if he thinks that you've
never slept with anyone, then that's lying," says Sills. So even if you think you know your partner down to his toenails,
make sure you have this discussion. The fewer surprises the better. Says Sills, "The closer you are, the less romantic
the wedding, and the more solid the marriage."
Try This At Home:
The Dos and Don'ts of Great Sex
With a little planning and imagination, passion can continue to grow throughout your marriage. You can't have great sex
unless you are true to yourself and honest with your partner. Still, despite great strides, one adage largely holds true:
Women need love to get in the mood for sex. Men need sex to be receptive to love. Keep these dos and don'ts in mind:
Don't
Don't consistently have sex if you're not physically ready. Over time, giving in -- because you feel
you must, or because time is short -- can breed resentment that will seriously erode any good feelings you have for each other.
Instead, transform the moment: Tell him that you're thrilled that he wants you, and suggest a better time.
Don't criticize him for trying something new that doesn't work.
Don't have sex when your mind is mulling over how to handle the problem with the
contractor, your son's failing math grade, and whose turn it is to take the lacrosse carpool on Saturday.
Don't use your fear or your resentment as a weapon and avoid sex. Find a way to
talk about what's really bothering you outside the bedroom -- it doesn't need to ruin what happens inside.
Do
Pay
attention to the pace at which your body responds. If you're not aroused enough for sexual activity, let him know.
Tell your partner what you need and like.
Keep
in mind that it can be difficult moving into new sexual arenas. If a spouse's suggestions are uncomfortable for you, don't
automatically refuse. Tell him what scares you but try to modify it in some way that will please both of you.
Give him a chance to fix what bothers you about your sex life. Give him feedback, but
avoid critical remarks, especially in the moment. Try to sandwich a negative between two positives.
Be the seducer. Trading roles will help you both empathize with each other, not to mention boost passion. Surprise
him by showing you're thinking about him when he least expects it.
To
purchase a copy of the new book Seven Secrets of a Happy Marriage, visit www.workman.com.
Try This At Home: The Trust checkup: by Margery
D. Rosen and the Editors of Ladies' Home Journal
Trust is the expectation,
often unspoken, that someone will be there for us. When trust is broken, we no longer feel safe-physically, emotionally, or
spiritually. How much can you and your mate really trust each other?
On the
line next to each situation, rate whether it is A) easy, B) somewhat difficult, or C) difficult for you to get help, support,
or encouragement from you partner when:
1. ___
you feel indecisive.
2.
___ you're depressed.
3.
___ you feel exhausted.
4. ___ you feel guilty.
5. ___ you need encouragement.
6. ___ you need advice.
7.
___ you feel like a failure.
8. ___ you're
in physical pain.
9. ___ you're in a money
crisis.
10. ___ you feel humiliated.
Here's a few tips to help your characters get through a few rough spots when it comes
to relationships.
• The Importance of Fighting Fair •
Anger is inevitable in marriage. If two people are living together, they are bound to disagree
about small, seemingly petty things ("Whose turn is it to walk the dog?" "Why am I always doing the laundry?")
as well as larger, more significant issues ("How should we handle our 2-year-old's tantrums?" "Why don't
you ever back me up when your mother criticizes me?") Yet anger itself is not the real problem. It's how couples
handle and deal with anger that separates a healthy relationship from one at risk.
Try This At Home: How to End an Argument -- So You're Both Happy
The "Rules":
Stop
trying to win. In most arguments, each person is a little right and a little wrong.
Schedule
a time and place to resolve conflict. Timing is everything. Don't bring up important issues when you are too tired or
too rushed to resolve them.
Be clear and specific. Discuss one issue at
a time and stay focused on the point you are trying to make. Try to be as neutral as you can in presenting your point of view.
Make suggestions for resolutions, brainstorm ideas, and pick one to try that seems
to satisfy both of you the most. If that doesn't work, don't despair. Pick another. Comments such as: "Let's
try to find a common ground," or "Where do we more or less agree?" show that you're serious about negotiation.
Call a time-out when either of you is so white-hot you will soon say or do something
you regret. Remove yourself, temporarily, from the situation. You can say "I'm feeling very angry and I'm beginning
to lose it now. I want to take a time-out." Or "I see you're very angry right now. Let's discuss this tonight,
after the kids are in bed." Make a definite time and place to continue the conversation. Then, leave the room and do
something physical -- walk, jog, clean the garage -- anything to defuse angry energy.
Don't be cruel. Promise each other you won't be nasty, sarcastic, or personally critical.
Don't insist on the last word. You may win the battle but lose the war by building resentment.
To purchase a copy of the new book Seven Secrets of a Happy Marriage, visit www.workman.com.
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Below is an article I thought was interesting and
may help you when your characters are in a relationship. Try having them ask the questions and see what happens.
Why Communication Counts
Over and over again, communication problems are targeted as the number-one cause of marital strife.
In many cases, couples think they're
communicating, but the messages aren't getting through. Communication problems stem from differences in conversational
styles between men and women.
Another
common reason for communication foul-ups is what we call the mind-reader syndrome. Many couples -- newlywed as well as long-married
-- fall victim. "If he really loved me, he would know what I want" is a typical complaint. So is "She's
not saying anything, so she must be mad at me." Men are also much less likely than women to ask questions of a personal
nature. They frequently think: "If she wants me to know, she'll tell me." Unfortunately, clinging to misconceptions
often prevents couples from saying, honestly and directly, what they really feel and need.
| Could mind-reader syndrome be a problem
in your marriage? Perhaps you are not explaining your needs or expressing your thoughts as clearly as you think you are. Use
this short personal checklist to focus your feelings and specify what you'd like to change instead of complaining or criticizing.
When a disagreement surfaces, ask yourself: |
 | What exactly am I thinking and feeling right now? |  | What do I want my spouse to know right now that he or she may not realize? |  | What is my partner thinking I mean? |  | What am I assuming he knows that he may not have thought of? |  | Am I acting in childish or petty ways that I thought I had outgrown? Are my tone of voice or my actions telling
my partner something that I'm not saying directly? Could he be misinterpreting what I really mean? |  | Is there one thing I could do differently to make my spouse understand? |
|
| Taking the time to do this will help you clarify your
own needs so you lessen or avoid problems entirely. |
To purchase a copy of the new book
Seven Secrets of a Happy Marriage, visit www.workman.com.
Get FREE Press Coverage
By Beth Ann Erickson, BethAnnErickson.com
Advertising is expensive. A small classified ad in my local paper costs around forty bucks
to run a four-liner ten days. Four dollars a day probably isn’t that expensive but those four-dollar increments
add up to well over a hundred dollars over a one-month period. To make matters worse, it’s almost impossible to make
your ad stand out in the cluttered classified section, especially if it’s only four lines long.
Luckily, there’s a way to snag those column
inches for free.
Write
a press release.
Every
time something good happens in your writing business – whether you decide to host a seminar, whether you land a new
client (get their permission before you announce your affiliation, of course), or if you ink a book deal – write a snappy
press release and fax, mail, or deliver it to as many media outlets as you can.
Each press release should contain the elements of a good article. The
better written your release, the better your chances of getting it published.
Here are some basic rules you can use to get your press releases read:
 | Be sure to include the Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How in every release you write.
Answer these questions and the press release practically writes itself. |
 | Make your headline snappy and relevant to their audience. It should summarize your article
succinctly. |
 | Write it in the “inverted pyramid” style. This means you lead with the most
important information knowing that if an editor is going to shorten your press release, he’ll usually cut it from the
bottom and work his way up. |
 | Press releases sent to printed media like a newspaper or magazine can be longer than ones
sent to auditory media like radio. Fill an entire typewritten page if you’re sending the release to a newspaper. When
you send it to a television or radio station, edit it until you can comfortably read it aloud in around one minute. |
 | Read every press release aloud before you send it. ESPECIALLY those releases sent to radio
and television stations. The less a news director has to edit your work, the better your chances are that they’ll use
it. And when you get a reputation for producing easy-to-read writing, you’ll get even more coverage. |
 | Send your release to an actual person. Releases sent to “The New York Times”
will probably get tossed by a secretary. If you send your press release to “John Doe at the New York Times,” chances
are he’ll at least scan it before he decides if it’s newsworthy. |
 | ALWAYS remember to mention your credentials. Remember, a BIG reason you’re contacting
the press is that you want to spread the word about your writing services. |
 | Don’t be afraid to “touch base” with the person who supposedly received
your release. I had to send a press release to our large local paper three times because they kept “losing” it.
I was always polite, professional, patient, and pleasant (how’s that for alliteration?) when I spoke to them. My persistence
resulted in a 1/3 page article on the FRONT page. Wahoo! |
When you send
press releases, your worst-case scenario will be that they won’t use it. Don’t give up. It’s not personal.
Media people are extremely busy. Keep trying, build a good reputation and you’ll eventually hit pay dirt.
Sometimes your press release will run as you wrote
it. Sometimes they’ll run it but it will be edited – sometimes it will be edited a LOT.
Best case scenario? They’ll send out a reporter
and photographer and you’ll get an entire article. That’s when your job gets fun….
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Writing Romance Fiction 101
by: Morgan Leshay
Congratulations! You've decided you want to
write a romance novel. Did you know romance fiction is one of the most popular types of fiction sold in the US today? In 2004,
romance fiction generated $1.2 billion in sales. In fact, Romance fiction comprises 54.9% of all popular paperback fiction
sold in North America (according to statistics provided by Romance Writers of America). That's a lot of love to share,
right?
I think you've
picked a fabulous industry to get into, but as you may imagine, or you may have already discovered firsthand, the competition
in the romance fiction industry is fierce.
But that's why I'm here, to help you come into it a couple steps ahead of the game. So...
The first thing we'll tackle is the definition.
If you're planning to write a romance novel, it's best you know what a romance novel "is", so here goes...
What Is A Romance Novel?
Romance Novel Defined
I recently discovered an article on a website
by Jennifer Coates, a feature called "Happy Endings" where Jennifer was remarking on the frequent contention between
herself (as a reader of romances) and others (who do not read romance) about her choice of reading material. It is from Jennifer
that I got this wonderful definition:
"A romance novel is a work of literature that reflects a human experience
we all aspire to: love."
A romance novel is an ideal, a way of life, the kind of fantasy life we can dream
of, wish we had, if only for a few hours each day-even though we are perfectly content to continue living our own happily
ever after in this thing we like to call "reality".
Most of the time when I'm called upon to define
a romance novel, I end up first having to define what a romance novel is NOT. A romance novel is NOT a sex story, sex book,
nasty book, naughty tale, or anything else that does not pertain to the emotional attachment between a man and a woman in
a forever kind of way.
It is most definitely NOT porn, wherein you read about people having sex merely for sex's
sake. If the characters emotions are not romantically involved, then it is not romance.
Here is my personal definition
of a romance novel...
A romance novel is a story about how one man and one woman fall in love while struggling
to overcome the many obstacles life throws their way, who work together to overcome those obstacles while the love relationship
grows and develops and in the end, make a permanent commitment to each other to maintain that love relationship forever, despite
(or perhaps in spite of) the many obstacles of life.
So basically, a romance novel is a story about a man and a
woman falling in love...from initial interest to permanent commitment. by: Morgan Leshay
Building a story: the basic list:
First off you need a Theme:
A theme sums of the essence of your story. What do you as a writer allude to throughout the story? Is it Love conquers all?
Or Love against all odds? Lost Identity- regained life? Etc.
Back cover blurb: this summarizes
your whole story in a quick pitch you'll need to sell to an editor or agent.
Character chart:
see above ↑↑
Motivation: "The big picture"
What
does your Heroine want?
What does your Hero want?
External Conflict for ea.
Chapter _________Scene_______
Hers:
His:
Internal Conflict for ea.
Chapter __________Scene________
Hers:
His:
Lets build the chapters: use this basic
outline for each chapter
Chapter _______ Scene_______ POV ______
Setting/Time Period:
Action:
Conflict/obstacles:
Motivation/wants:
Hook
that moves the story forward:
Thoughts that need to be resolved/answered in future chpts:
Each chapter,
like a rollercoaster ride, should have a opening hook- a conflict, either internal or external, - a hint of a resolution and
another hook that takes the story to the next level.
The first chapter should start with a Bang! Preferably
in the middle of action/conflict. To build a tense scene keep your lines short and quick. Dialogue is the best. Flashbacks
and a lot of "fill" stop the action.
Show don't Tell: Telling is just that,
it's you the author telling us what's happening. Showing is done by having the character doing something by
action. Showing can be done through dialogue as well.
Middle chapters: a turning point. Start
heading toward a resolution. If you pick up the book and open it to the middle make sure there's a lot of action/movement
then----wham!
The Black moment: This is where it looks like everything is falling apart. The
heroine/hero won't reach their goal: their love is doomed: etc.
Then wrap it up: All questions
should be answered. All hints made throughout the book should be realized. And, of course, for all romances, the love is every
lasting ending.
By: Marianne Petit
A
is for Attitude
Moving Towards Happiness
It's
important to establish the ground rules by emphasizing that it's how you feel about yourself that will determine your
effectiveness in the coming year.
It's all very
well setting lots of goals for yourself but if the thought of them fills you with dread you're not going to get very far.
This is why most New Year Resolutions are doomed to failure - what seems like a burning conviction on New Year's Eve can
quickly turn into a damp 'maybe' a day or so later!
The
trick is to set 'aspirations' that make you smile and fill you with a warm fuzzy feeling that will last.
Born to be Mild
This is what Robyn and I learned on that road trip to Darwin. We were filled with
love for each other - high on travelling and having fun when we sat down and drew up a list of 101 things we'd like to
do in the following year.
There were good, noble things
there like finishing manuscripts, submitting stories and book ideas to publishers - all the things we knew we had to complete.
But alongside, there were less serious, even silly things like meeting Johnny Depp and visiting the pyramids together.
We wrote things down that made us laugh - like arriving in a limo
at a movie premiere for our own movie - something that now, two years later, is actually going to happen!
And we think that's the trick - to give yourself writing goals that seem like
fun. When you tell yourself you need to get a novel finished, don't stop there. See the book in stores. Imagine yourself
at the signing - chatting to your publishers, your fans, the press.
Imagine the reviews and the Hollywood options that will come your way. Why not? You may as well enjoy yourself
- even if it's all a fantasy.
Because the subconscious
mind seems to like fun. We already know the subconscious likes images - real or imagined, it's all the same. And if you
plant fun images of your future into your subconscious, your every day actions over time will pull you closer to this new,
fun reality.
Are You Ready?
In order to be successful, you need to be ready for success. Too
often, just at the point at which success is about to come bounding down your hallway, a little voice inside your head says,
"I'm not ready for this." And, as much as you're sure you deserve a break, that you have every right to
get more money and perhaps a little fame, that little voice will stop you from reaching out and taking the success you're
offered.
Moving towards happiness may mean you have
to think about your life.
We're told often when
we're growing up that we should be responsible, that we have duties and need to make sacrifices - that this is all part
of being an adult.
But really, is this true? Do we
have to go through life miserable just because our parents, teachers and bosses say we should?
Pah! Look at it this way.
Say you're a father, bent on providing for your family. You work hard, all hours, to bring home
money. You're always tired. Your wife rarely sees you and, despite all the apparent comfort in their lives, your children
resent you for being such a workaholic.
You'd
like to be there for your family but your work, your sense of duty, compels you to work harder - to imagine you're indispensable
to your job. You're busy, stressed and miserable most of the time.
How much better a father would you make if you were happy first? What if you decided that being happy was
the most important thing? What would you do?
This
happened to me:
At one point in my life I
decided I should settle down, get a secure office job, a profession, and climb the corporate ladder. I trained as a corporate
buyer and moved into contract management. My glittering future seemed set...
But having children changed all that.
When
the boys came along I asked myself, "What kind of father do I want them to have?" Did I want them to see me as some
boring office type that was unfulfilled and who whinged about the sacrifices I'd made for them?
What sort of role model would that make me?
Would they rather see me as a happy, successful artist that felt proud of his life and achievements?
Wouldn't that make me a much better role model - someone who showed them, through his actions, that compromise was not
the only option in life?
Of course I decided on the
latter, despite any and all of the consequences. It wasn't easy but I made the change. I began writing full time, on a
wing and a prayer - because I knew that my being happy would be what was ultimately best for the boys. And it's worked
out just fine.
Now, when the boys are on holiday from
school, so are we. They get to spend days with us that other children would die for! We work from home so we're always
there for them. We can be their friends and guide them in a way that would be impossible if we had 'proper' jobs.
Being Selfish is Okay
Moving towards happiness is about being selfish I admit. But being happy makes you
a much more productive and useful human being. Being unhappy doesn't help anyone - least of all yourself.
So, think about what makes you happy. Think about how you can get
rid of all the things - and people - in your life that make you unhappy. Seriously consider changing your circumstances to
create your perfect life.
If you need more time to
write, make it so.
Why not? It's your life.
And you have a duty to yourself to be happy.
The next message in this series will arrive in your inbox shortly.
To Your Writing Success!
Rob
Parnell
P is for Persistence
Don't Stop
Thinking About Tomorrow
Wrinkly rocker Mick Jagger once said,
"The longer it takes you to get there, the longer you'll stay." And I guess he should know!
Persistence is not just about picking a course of action and sticking to it, month after month, year
after year. It's also about keeping your focus on the outcomes you desire.
Humming the old Fleetwood Mac song title is a good way of reminding yourself of this concept. Projecting your mind
forward is so much more healthy than dwelling on the past, even the present sometimes!
As I mentioned in yesterday's message, it's about creating an image of a glittering future in your mind that
is so strong and compelling that the Universe somehow pulls you towards it - so sure is it that this is your reality.
Sometimes success can seem a long time coming but Robyn and I have discussed this
and we've come up with a theory...
How the Universe
Works
Here goes. First you have to accept that at some basic,
fundamental level, the Universe strives for order and wants all of its inhabitants to benefit. (This is part of the philosophy
behind The Secret - and to some extent science is on its side: Chaos Theory predicts order and prosperity are mathematically
inevitable.)
Once you accept that the Universe actually conspires
to make you successful - and it's you that fights it when that doesn't happen - then it's clear that
lots of things have to happen before the Universe can get that success to you.
Think about the last time something good happened to you.
I'm
guessing it was through someone you met - right?
Usually good things
happen because of a series of meetings you've had with people. This person led to that person and so on until you meet
the person who changed your life.
Now imagine how hard that must be
for the Universe. Not only does it have to get this person to you, it has to shape events so that you meet at the best possible
time for both of you. But hardest of all is keeping you in the right frame of mind to recognise that this new person may be
the one.
Now, if you're a writer and not quite
in the right frame of mind or you haven't reached a good, positive and productive state yet, how many times will the Universe
have to do this before you're ready? Once, twice? A hundred times?
It's
probable that the right people are out there constantly but, either because you won't or can't accept that or don't
work towards finding them every day, you never get to meet them.
Given
all those myriad possibilities, it's no wonder success can be such a long time coming!
On Writing
Writing success
depends on persistence in all sorts of ways.
Writing every day, seeing
writing as a constant learning experience and source of fascination. Sending out your writing into the world consistently.
Coming up with new ideas all the time. These are all things that a writer must do to remain fresh and most pertinently, stay
writing.
Because of course, if you don't get work accepted on
a regular basis, you're not going to be able to continue writing full time - or anywhere near as much as you'd like.
You have two choices when it comes to writing - and most professional writers I
know juggle them. The first choice is to write for pleasure - that's a given. But the second choice involves 'following
the money'. So when we get to putting together your writing goals for next year, remember that striking a balance between
writing that pays and writing that gives you pleasure will keep you writing for longer.
Our experience is that writing for publishers advances and future royalties is pleasurable - at first. But it can
seem like work during the rewriting stages when publishers, editors and movie people want changes made to manuscripts (as
they always do!)
But, really, it's a small price to pay for the
privilege of being able to continue to write for pleasure, every day.
As
we journey further into the RnR Method, you'll learn how to create writing goals that become instinctive
to you and will propel into an active, writing future.
I hope you're
enjoying the ride!
The next message in this series will arrive in
your inbox shortly.
To Your Writing Success!
Rob Parnell
I is
for Inspiration
Invest in Yourself and Your Ideas
All
writers are asked, "Where do you get your ideas from?" as though there were some secret repository hidden away somewhere
to which only real writers have access.
The truth is, when you write
all the time, ideas come easily and naturally. They pop into your head unbidden. I think it's something to do with the
writing process. By writing, you're teaching your mind to string together words. The brain understands that this is a
very similar process to the way ideas get strung together. That is, logically, if you take this notion, add this, you get
something else - usually an idea for a story or a project.
Far from
being hard to come by, the working writer is inundated with ideas - and will probably never have enough time to work on them
all.
Personally I have hundreds of plot ideas for stories and more
come to me every day. My problem is choosing which ideas to focus on. And which ones to exploit.
Exploit is the Keyword
There's
no point in having all these ideas unless at least some of them will make you money in the long term.
Which is why you must 'invest' in them, hold them as precious and see them as a resource -
like gold - that you will one day mine, refine and sell on the open market.
You may feel uncomfortable with the idea that words and ideas, like any other resource, are there to be exploited,
sold etc. But this is the reality. The very fact that some authors and screenplay writers are paid so well should be an indication
to you that words can be very powerful and have the ability to make many millions of dollars - for everyone that is touched
by them.
Why do you think there's a writer's strike on at
the moment? Why is it causing so much havoc with the TV stations and the movie studios?
Because without writers, the entire entertainment media would collapse - and writers are offended that they, the
creators, are treated with such contempt by the people that make an awful lot of money from their words. Hopefully this will
change in the future and writers will command the respect - and the money - they deserve.
Responsibility Equals Power
I
remember once Sting said that by the time he was writing the songs to the Police's third album, he realized he wasn't
writing songs for himself anymore. He was writing songs to support an entire industry that the band's success had created.
Everyone from the CEO of A&M records down to the shop staff who sold the CDs and the merchandising were relying on the
next Police album to sell millions of copies.
Quite a responsibility
for an ex teacher with a bad haircut!
But that's the way of the
world now.
With great talent comes great responsibility - to misquote
Spider Man - and if you take yourself seriously as a writer, you should be prepared to one day take on that responsibility
and realize your words may represent great power - and will end up literally funding the lives of many people you
don't know and will never meet.
Just ask J K Rowling what that's
like!
You may think that sometimes writers and musicians and actors
'sell out' at some point in their career - they start just 'going through the motions' for the money. But
once you understand the responsibilities of fame and celebrity, it's not hard to see why. An artist who deliberately jeopardizes
their own career, also jeopardizes thousands of others too - and that's not a decision anyone - artist or not - should
take lightly.
Cherish Your Ideas
Keeping track of your ideas and constantly thinking about how you might use them to your benefit is
the lot of the working writer. But it's also important to look after yourself - the vessel that creates and nourishes
those ideas.
Keeping healthy, eating sensibly, avoiding drugs and
too much alcohol are things the responsible writer should take seriously.
In
a world where there's a medical term for the slightest of ailments, it's unfashionable to say that most illnesses
(barring viruses) are self inflicted. But there is much evidence to suggest that this is the case. And writers especially
seem to be prone to this phenomena.
Stay Healthy
I've met many writers who complain they're ill - therefore they can't
write. I often wonder which came first. Did, perhaps, their inability to write somehow bring about an psychosomatic illness
that prevented them from writing?
The relationship between the mind
and the body is a complex one. And though I risk criticism I'm sure, I will say that I'm tempted to believe that,
in most cases, you're about as healthy as you think you are.
Therefore
you have a duty to believe yourself well.
Not just to protect your
mind and body but your ideas too.
Because your ideas - and you're
writing talents - are most likely as good as you believe them to be.
To Your Writing Success!
Rob
Parnell
Easy Way to Success
R is for Reflection
Dream, Fantasize
and Order Your Mind
Here's the cute non-reality that people generally believe:
Writing is more than a skill, a pastime or a way of making a living. It is a vocation - like being a nurse
or missionary. In order to commit yourself, and impress those that would read your work, you have to want to do it for nothing.
Indeed this is how many of us become writers - it's
something we feel compelled to do, whether asked to, required to or not!
Certainly I've noticed that when you first start dealing with publishers, your enthusiasm, commitment
and talent are of primary concern. Any talk of money too early in the process will see you ostracized very quickly. You're
supposed to want to write for yourself -
for Art's sake - first.
I guess
it's about trust. The people that would help us get our work seen - in other words, published - need to be sure that our
motives are sincere. That we write for some purpose other than just to make money.
Tosh!
Robyn and I have discussed this aspect of the writer's dilemma many times - and we have a counter argument.
Writing is time consuming, hard work sometimes and
almost impossible to sustain a good living at for most writers - 80% make less than $10,000 a year according to the last survey
I read.
It's clear that if writers don't get paid, they can't continue writing - at least
not without considering poverty as a career choice.
Given the vast millions that publishers make, I've always thought that they should pay new writers to submit work - but of course that's never going
to happen! There's simply too many would be writers who are willing to chance it based on nothing more than a vague possibility
of success.
But This is To Your Advantage
Because for every one hundred writers that try and fail - either through discouragement, the apathy of publishers,
or the sheer force of having to pay the rent - there's one, like you, that ain't givin' up!
But how do you sustain the momentum - the will and the courage to continue?
Easy. Get obsessed. Dream about your writing success. Fantasize about it every moment of every
day. Create a compulsion within yourself that cannot be undermined.
Be insane. Be illogical. Be unrealistic!
Because...
Over the
years I've noticed something very telling. The writers with the most talent don't always rise to the top. But the
writers who don't stop and won't take no for an answer, and just keep going regardless of criticism and bad experiences,
are the ones that make it - every time.
Reflection Strengthens Determination
Actively thinking about your writing is not just about trying to improve or responding positively to feedback,
it's about organizing your thoughts and reactions to do what people say about your writing. You can take criticism well
or badly. It can fire you up or destroy you. It's your choice.
I used to think I wasn't good enough to be a professional writer - and my lack of success reinforced
that view.
But I had it all wrong. What I
failed to understand at the time was that, if you just keep going, respond to feedback and keep plugging away at new projects,
you become good enough over time.
Your technique may improve. You may begin to write
more effectively or tell better stories. But none of that matters if you don't have the single minded drive to overcome
the apparent obstacles to your success.
It's
too easy to get discouraged. The system is designed for that to happen - to weed out those that are not determined.
Take heart, if you are fully committed, there are no
obstacles that cannot be overcome, there are no barriers - real or imagined - that you cannot triumph over.
In the words of a very old clich� - and things become clich� remember,
usually because they're true:
"There is nothing you can't do once you set your mind to it."
So, in 2009 - go for it!
To Your Writing Success!
Rob Parnell
Easy Way to Success
Final installment will be E is for Excellence
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